what Koreans think about when foreigners try Korean food

Okay, so you’re trying Korean food. Good for you! It’s…an experience. We’re generally happy you’re giving it a shot, honestly. But we do notice things. Like, a lot of things.

The Spice Level: Seriously?

The first thing, without fail, is the spice. So many foreigners start with “mild” and then proceed to sweat like they’re running a marathon. We’re not trying to torture you, really! It’s just…most things aren’t “mild” by default.

“Maek-eo” (spicy) isn’t a suggestion, it’s a vibe. Asking for something “not spicy” usually results in the chef looking at you like you’ve requested a unicorn. You’ll get it toned down, sure, but prepare for a hint of heat. Don’t be surprised if you still need a glass of banchan (side dishes) to cool down.

Banchan: More Than Just Free Food

The banchan. Oh, the banchan. Some people see it as a free buffet, which…it’s not. It’s meant to complement the main dish, not to be consumed entirely on its own. We notice when you’re stacking your plate high.

It’s not rude to take a little extra, especially if it’s something you really like, but clearing an entire plate is a bit much. And please, don’t mix and match everything in one bite. There’s a reason why they’re separate.

Kimchi: A Love-Hate Relationship

Kimchi. This is a big one. The reaction to kimchi is…telling. You either love it or you hate it. There’s very little middle ground.

The people who immediately recoil? We get it. Fermented cabbage with chili and garlic isn’t for everyone. But the ones who grimace and then force themselves to take another bite…why? Just be honest! It’s okay to not like it; we won’t be offended (usually).

Spoon and Chopstick Etiquette: A Minefield

Okay, this one is a constant source of amusement. Using your chopsticks to move food around on the table? Major faux pas. It looks like you’re serving yourself from a communal bowl, which is not polite.

And please, don’t stick your chopsticks straight up in your rice. It resembles incense offerings for the dead and is considered very unlucky. We know, we know, it’s just rice. But just…don’t do it.

Using your spoon to eat rice is generally fine, though! Most Koreans do it that way, so you’re already halfway there. Just be mindful of how you’re holding things – it shows respect.

Bibimbap: The Customizable Test

Bibimbap is often the gateway drug to Korean food. It’s relatively mild, visually appealing, and allows for some customization. But the way people mix it… it’s a performance.

Some people meticulously arrange each ingredient before mixing. Others just violently stir everything together like they’re battling a food monster. There’s no wrong way, but we notice. We always notice.

And the egg! Some people eat the yolk first, some wait until the end. There’s a whole subculture around bibimbap egg consumption. It’s a surprisingly intense topic.

Trying to Speak Korean: Bless Your Heart

We absolutely love when foreigners try to speak Korean. Even if you just say “annyeonghaseyo” (hello) or “kamsahamnida” (thank you), it makes us smile. Seriously.

However, butchering the pronunciation of our names or constantly attempting to use overly formal language can be…awkward. It’s sweet, but sometimes a simple, polite “hello” in English is perfectly fine. Don’t worry too much about getting everything perfect.

We also appreciate it when you don’t try to haggle at restaurants. Prices are generally fixed, and trying to negotiate is just…confusing. It’s not like a market. We’re not trying to rip you off.

And please, don’t ask for “Americanized” versions of dishes. It’s a backhanded compliment. We’re proud of our food as it is. If you don’t like something authentic, there’s no shame in trying something else.

Tteokbokki: A Spicy, Chewy Challenge

Tteokbokki (spicy rice cakes). This is a test of endurance. Those chewy, spicy rice cakes aren’t messing around. It’s a surprisingly divisive dish.

Some people devour it with gusto, declaring it the best thing ever. Others are left gasping for water, questioning their life choices. We find it fascinating.

And the fish cakes (odeng) in the broth? Those are fair game for dipping tteokbokki into. But please, don’t slurp the broth loudly. It’s… a bit much.

The Overall Vibe: Just Relax and Enjoy

Honestly, we don’t expect you to be Korean food experts. We just want you to enjoy yourself. Don’t be afraid to try new things, ask questions, and maybe make a few mistakes.

We notice when people are self-conscious or overly worried about doing everything “right.” Just relax, be respectful, and appreciate the flavors. And if you’re unsure about something, just ask! We’re usually happy to explain.

Plus, if you end up loving Korean food as much as we do, you’ll always have a friend in us. Just…maybe ease up on the kimchi a little.